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There's a lot of debate around how effective dating apps are. You've heard they're the death of romance, they are all about hookups, they make people less likely to settle down, etc.. And in some ways, it's fair— the way apps work make us treat people like they're more disposable and changes the way we communicate, not for the better. While a 2015 Mic study found that only 9.4 percent people met their significant other on dating apps or sites, it is how everyone I know meets someone to date. So you shouldn't freak out and think there's no way you're going to actually meet somebody online. You totally, totally can. It's just about how to figure out how to do it effectively.

Elite Singles is a high-quality dating app that can help a black professional meet a potential partner for life. The dating website and app allow free members to set dating preferences based on race and ethnicity as well as education, income, and appearance. This makes it easy to narrow the dating scene down to the most viable potential matches. Hinge Branded as the dating app “designed to be deleted,” Hinge markets itself squarely to people looking for serious relationships. App founder Justin McLeod said the Hinge prompts allow people to “ put themselves out there a bit more.”. Apps like Kippo and XO — where the focus isn’t solely on dating but on sharing interests, activities, and games — would be our recommendations for younger people dating online, but do check. Zoosk is our top pick for the best free dating app for a lot of reasons. It has over 40 million members in its database. It offers a lot of different communication tools for free and paid members. And it offers dating advice for new users who are unsure of what to do. Bragging Rights: Doing things with people you love Duet, a free iOS app, allows users to ask a crush or significant other on a date. You create a “duet” by sending a personal, one-on-one invite that prompts “Let’s (fill in the blank)” and the invitee can either accept or decline. Don’t worry if you don’t have the app downloaded.

Because that's the actual problem with dating apps. They seem simple and slick, letting you just quickly swipe and make an instantaneous connection. But the truth is, they're incredibly time-consuming and it's not always easy to take the conversations offline. You can spend hours a week swiping and having mindless chat without every meeting someone in real life. They can be a total time-suck, as many of us remember from when Tinder first came out and dinners and drinks were invaded by incessant swiping and dull eyes glowing in the light of phone screen.

But part of it is finding the best dating app for you, whether you're looking for casual sex, short-term dating or a LTR. So here are the dating apps real people find most effective:

1. Jess, 25

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I'm not on any right now cuz I'm leaving the country for a few months, but Bumble was my favorite and is the top choice amongst my girlfriends. The girls message first platform weeds out a lot of creepers!

2. Zoe, 28

I don't know if Tinder is the most effective, but I feel like it's your best shot because of the sheer number of people on there.

3. Lily, 24

I was always obsessed—like REALLY REALY obsessed with Tinder. And I still have it and use it but I started trying other ones and Bumble seems to be the one I'm going on way more proper date dates from. So it depends what you're going for, but relationships I said Bumble.

4. Kristen, 22

OkCupid because from my experience, most guys on there are actually looking to date, and the fact that it includes profiles and compatibility percentages it makes it a lot easier to gauge whether you'd get along with someone.

5. Kelsea, 28

I love Bumble because it makes me get off my ass, so to speak. I can't be passive and wait for dudes to message me because I literally have to be the first one. It's also upping my texting game because you've got to be clever to get someone decent to want to hang out. I just wish it had a pause button for when I'm unable to actually send messages within that 24 hour window. We have lives, Bumble!

6. Kathryn, 27

NONE OF THEM. Just kidding. I think it depends on what you're looking for. I tend to prefer Tinder, but I'm also not really looking for a serious relationship of any sort. I usually end up getting the most dates on Tinder over any of my other apps. That being said, I probably talk more to people on OkCupid, but the chances of me meeting up with any of them in real life are slim.

7. Michelle, 28

Tinder! I've honestly never found it to be 'the hookup app', but that's also not what I was using it for. If you're looking to talk to someone and actually go on a date, I think Tinder's your best bet. You just need to spend some time and be selective. I don't think it's the best user experience, and I definitely like using The League, but my best dating app dates have been Tinder ones.

8. Jon, 30

OKC has been more semi serious dating, Tinder more casual dates/sex. Although OKC is old school and it's the same people over and over again. They're more likely to be monogamous or just really really horny'

9. Kara, 26

I'm a big fan of OKC, because I met my very rad boyfriend on there. I also only went on one truly terrible OKC date, versus the majority of my Tinder dates that were terrible. I like that OKC gives you the option (but not requirement) to write a bunch, because then you know it's a red flag if someone writes more than a sentence for each question. What are you trying to prove with your paragraphs of text?!

10. Jessica, 28

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I don't use a lot of dating apps (and don't <3 them), but if I had to pick, I would say Hinge. Hinge at least somewhat provides a basis of connection (through Facebook friends) and limits the amount of swiping, each promoting a sense of consideration for the other person vs. an app with endless options and the ability to catfish. I actually met my last BF on Hinge (but it didn't last long, or end well, so take what you will from that...)

11. Ray, 31

Anything where there's an actual bio. Not just a blurb. OkCupid and Match are my favorites, because I only want to talk to someone when I learn more about them than a few photos.

12. Susan, 41

I had a great experience on a new-ish dating app, The Dating Lounge. I like how easy it was to see who I had in common with my date. I liked that I was able to see his first and last name so I knew who he was for sure. Then I like that I was able to reach out to the woman behind the app who is a real Professional Matchmaker and ask her what she thought of him as a match for me. And she actually replied and gave me some really good advice.

13. Antonia, Author Of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life

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I'm also single in a digitalized society, which means I've tried many dating apps. I have found that Tinder is more effective than any of the others. I had hoped that paying for Match would garner better results, but instead it's only offered the same cheesy pick up lines and same guys I'd already heard from on other dating apps. Tinder has offered more than just guys looking for hook ups, and I've even made some longer term friends there.

14. Asa, 32

Tinder has been the best source for dates for me.

15. Lindsay, 23

I enjoy Bumble so much. Being a twenty-something fashion girl in NYC can be so busy and fast-paced with work that I can barely find time to eat and sleep, let alone meet guys. Bumble offers the perfect platform for me to meet potential dates. I feel like a lot of the guys I match with on Bumble are in my same situation. They're busy with work and life in general. It's also a really hard place to meet people because there are SO many people. Bumble seems to attract the type of guy I'm attracted to in general, relatively preppy, good looking, successful. The guys aren't just looking for a hook up or a one night stand like on other dating apps. I find myself going to meet out for drinks, dinner or enjoying some sort of event with my matches. The lady has to reach out first, so my real struggle is seeking out a creative and eyecatching opening line to standout. Obviously, not every date goes amazing, but I've met a bunch of great guys and had a lot of fun with the app.

16. Matt, 26

I think Hinge is generally the most effective dating app. There's a limited number of potential matches a day, so you're not mindlessly swiping through countless photos. And because there's some degree of a connection, you feel like this is a real person, which leads to less flakes. I also like how there's a bit of a profile with some info, but not a super long profile of paragraphs. Plus, they just got rid of that god-awful 24-hour shot clock, which is a big upgrade.

17. Stephanie, 28

I like having control of who I talk to and message. No games needed you can just message the guy and you'll know if he likes you based on 1) if he answers and 2) if he asks you out.

18. Kristen, 25

I'm so paranoid about clicking the wrong button with my clumsy fingers that I don't actually use the mobile versions of any dating apps. I stick to desktop, for the most part, because I'm just that lame. But if I had to pick, I suppose OkCupid. Plenty of Fish has never come through for me, but I've had a few dates off OKC. Not good dates, but dates. So, good for OKC?

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In a fast-paced, technologically driven world, many singles are turning to the internet in hopes of finding love. But while meeting new people is easier than ever before, the dating game has become even more complicated under the guise of convenience. With so many different options available, which dating app is best for long-term relationships, as opposed to casual flings (which are great in their own right)?

'Dating apps can be excellent resources to connect with people,' says Dr. Stefani Threadgill, a sexologist, PhD, LMFT, and founder of The Sex Therapy Institute in Plano, Texas. 'Most of us take the same commute to work [and] grab coffee or lunch at the same places every day. We are limited in our routines with new people to meet, especially in certain geographical areas such as rural areas or even the suburbs where the feel is 'everyone knows everyone.'

It's true that online dating expands your search area exponentially, but it can also lead to sloppy etiquette, at-a-glance judgements, and a mentality of endless (and disposable) connections. So in today's day and age, how does a savvy woman wade through a sea of singles in order to find 'the one'?

Ahead, relationship experts and real-life usersspeak candidly about their own experiences using some of today's hottest dating platforms. From swipe-style apps to lengthy profiles on popular matching sites, it's not just about what you use; it's how you use it. If you're ready to quit all your dating apps, read this first.

Look For Platforms That Encourage Detailed Profiles

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If you've taken to the web to search for a soulmate, the first step is to pinpoint the platform(s) that best serves your needs. There are always exceptions to the rule, but generally speaking, apps that encourage snap judgements based on appearances tend to attract a more casual crowd, while in-depth profiles can indicate users looking for something more.

'With only photos and a few words, there's no way to know if the other person aligns with your values, interests, humor, worldview, etc.,' points out Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, a sociologist and intimacy speaker, author of the new book, From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Based in San Diego, the 40-something relationship guru is a dating app user, herself. 'I can't and won't use the Tinder-style apps. It personally doesn't feel like it's worth my time and I'm looking more for quality over quantity.'

Instead, she recommends using platforms that encourage in-depth profiles, which can help weed out shallow connections. 'There are sites that specifically cater to folks looking for long-term relationships, like eHarmony or Hinge. It's worth spending time on these and creating a profile (with feedback from male and female friends) that helps you attract the kind of person you're looking for.'

Sonya Schwartz, a dating and relationship expert and founder of the dating blog Her Aspiration, agrees. 'eHarmony, for instance, requires [users] to fill in a lengthy questionnaire that's too boresome for those looking for hookups, but inspires trust to those looking for marriage or long-term,' says the 43-year-old from Plano, Texas. 'Match also has a lengthier signup process that appeals to those interested in something serious. Badoo and Tinder are more 'bubbly'; they attract younger folks who're more interested in a casual thing or one-night-stand.' (Now, to be clear, there's nothing wrong with wanting something less serious and non-committal. If that's your preference, swipe away!)

Make Your Intentions Known

Both experts and dating app users agree that sharing your intentions up front is key in narrowing your search. 'If you're looking for a long-term relationship and find yourself really attracted to someone but they clearly state that they aren't looking for anything serious, move on,' warns Dr. Gunsaullus. 'Don't secretly hope that you'll change their mind because your connection feels so strong.'

While you can certainly do this with any site or app, some are more conducive to revealing this information at a glance. 'I always swipe left if someone’s just looking for 'something casual,' says Ashli Campbell, a 30-year-old dating app user from Portland, Maine. When relationship preferences are clear from the get-go, 'it removes the need for the awkward 'so what are you looking for on here?' conversation,' she adds.

Of course, that initial honesty can lead to its own slew of frustrations. 'Bumble now offers the ability to put 'labels' on your profile of what you’re looking for (i.e. relationships, flings, if you want kids ...),' explains Kayla Hockman, a 26-year-old publicist in Los Angeles who's tried several matching services. 'At first glance, I thought it was a good idea, but [it] apparently only drives men away, according to two men I met on Bumble who gave me their unsolicited advice after seeing I had labeled myself as the 'relationship type.' But discouraging as it may be, immaturity like this is not indicative of long-term relationship material.

Keep An Open Mind

It's a tough balance: On the one hand, it's important to be honest about what you're looking for in a partner, but become too picky, and you can miss a spark. In fact, it's one of the biggest online dating mistakes people tend to make.

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'I call it the 'all the fish in the sea' syndrome,' says Hockman. 'Everyone has a database of 'all' the singles in [their immediate area] and it can be overwhelming, so people become incredibly picky, which usually gives you little to no luck. So [my] tip is: Be open for an unexpected match but don’t stress over [...] looking for someone possibly 'better.'

Campbell seconds this advice. 'Don’t narrow your focus to people with the same interests as you, or to the qualities or interests of your ideal mate,' she suggests. 'Instead, be open-minded. You may learn to enjoy things you never thought you’d do (like bird-watching, which I actually had a ton of fun doing [with an online date]).'

Consider Whether Paid Subscriptions Are Worth It

Then, there's the matter of paid subscription services, which tend to offer in-depth features while (hopefully) discouraging more casual users. So, is it worth the money?

'Paid sites don’t ensure compatible interests or intentions from both parties involved,' notes Dr. Threadgill. 'That said, ‘the fish that you catch is a function of the bait that you use.’ It is my favorite piece of dating advice (I believe I heard it in a workshop given by David Schnarch at SMU in 2011).'

Hockman admits she's skeptical of whether it's worth shelling out cash to access profiles. 'The thing is, I don’t want to pay for a database of men that seemingly may still only want to hook up,' she says.

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So, perhaps more important than deciding whether to sign up for a paid service is seeking one out that speaks to you. Does it ask questions you'd want to know about potential matches, and ones you'd like them to know about you? Are there sign-up requirements that might discourage anyone just looking for a one-night stand? Do you enjoy the features and overall user experience? If you find a platform that checks all these boxes and there's a fee to join, it might be worth it.

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What These Ladies Really Think About These Popular Dating Apps

Naturally, not everyone will have the same user experience (yes, it'spossible to find long-term love on Tinder), but these app users give their take on a few of today's most popular platforms.

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Tinder: 'Tinder seems to be mostly used for hookups and just sometimes for relationships. Sometimes people note 'no hookups' in their profile. On the other hand, I often see the phrase, 'Here for a good time, not a long time.' — Campbell

OKCupid: 'I used to love OKCupid for finding potential serious relationships. They were more inclusive than other dating apps and asked interesting questions, and once you answered enough of their weighted questions, their algorithm was so impressive. But a few years ago it was clear they started screwing around with their algorithm and then they moved to more of a Tinder-like swipe style. I no longer recommend this app like I used to, and I don't use it myself anymore.' — Dr. Gunsaullus

Bumble: 'The dating pool on Bumble is similar to that of Hinge. People are able to identify in their profile what they’re looking for, so it’s more often listed up front along with where they’re from, level of schooling, height, whether or not you want kids, etc. It makes it easy to swipe left or right.' — Campbell

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Hinge: 'Hinge seems more balanced in terms of what people are looking for. I have seen more professionals in their 30s on Hinge than on Tinder.' — Campbell

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Match/eHarmony: 'I found Match to be more suitable for casual dates and long-term relationships, whereas eHarmony works better for long-term commitments and marriage[seeking].' - Schwartz